Wednesday, May 27, 2009

How to Woo Online

So in jumping back on the bike after falling off, I searched through profiles on Match again and found a few guys who caught my eye and a few who didn't. Maybe some pointers would be helpful on how to catch my eye at least....

A few tips:

1. Being honest is a plus. I've read profiles saying straight out, "I'm not romantic but at least I'm honest about it." That's something good to know going into things.

2. Use your big people words. Seriously. We're all adults here. Typing your entire profile in CAPS or in internet speak is not ok. To steal a line from the profile from I guy I went out with from Match, good grammar and spelling turn me on like you would not believe.

3. Have a good profile picture. I feel bad for not giving people a chance if they don't have a picture, but physical attraction needs to be there. And pictures of you and your friends are great and all, but I can't tell which one you are, it's probably not a good picture. On a similar note, if you are holding some sort of cup or bottle in all your pictures, it makes you look like a wine-o and that's a big turn-off for me.

4. Say something interesting. Stand out from the crowd. A lot of the guys I've actually e-mailed or winked at on that site had something different in their profile, be it a funny opener or a great quote from a favorite movie. This is your chance to show your personality, so let it shine through.

I suppose that's all for now. I certainly hope I'm half as charming online as I am in person.

Monday, May 25, 2009

He's just not that into me...

That book totally changed the way I date.

Mister turned out to just not be that into me. Luckily, I'd caught on throughout the week. Disappointed- yes maybe a little but I'll survive.

As we speak, I may be setting up a date for sometime this week.

Bring on the frogs boys!

Thursday, May 21, 2009

Online dating - perhaps a mini success?

So after reviewing my Daily 5 religiously and checking out the people who are winking at me, I'm finding Match might be worth it afterall.

I do have to say that I for the most part dismiss people who merely wink at me. If you think my profile is interesting enough and you think I'm attractive, why not start with a quick message? I don't wanna do all the work here guys. Plus, actually writing an e-mail shows you truely read my profile rather than just thinking I'm hot from my picture. Whatev...

Anywho, I get an e-mail every time someone winks at me. I'll go check out their profile and see what their deal is but normally I don't respond. One guy winked at me a few weeks ago and I went through the normal motions of reading the profile, checking out the pictures, etc. This guy was really cute, I mean REALLY cute. Plus, he had a personality to boot. His profile was straightforward and honest with a dash of sarcasm thrown in there. Like I said, I normally don't e-mail the winkers, but this guy caught my eye too.

I shot him an e-mail with a cheesy opener (Did you get something in your eye?) It worked because we e-mailed back and forth for like two weeks and finally chatted on the phone twice for 2 hours at a time. We've been out twice now so we'll see where this one goes.

There's some good stories from those two dates, but another time :)

Wednesday, May 20, 2009



I wish there was a way you could weed out fans of teams that I don't get along with. There are a lot of cute White Sox fans out there, but it just wouldn't work out. Seeing a cute guy's picture and then finding out he's a Sox or worse, Cardinals fan, breaks my heart just a little.

Maybe I shouldn't be so picky?


The End of Birdman

Alright, so after a long break of being out of town and busy, I can finally close out this saga (not that you were on the edges of your seats or anything....)

Birdman texts me while I'm at work and asks if I want to grab dinner later that night. I agree, plus the idea of a ride home from work sounded wonderful and prevented me from working too much overtime :)

He picks me up and goes in for a kiss once I get in the car. It was as if he'd settled into a relationship with me even though we hadn't even talked about that. We were still casually dating, but I have a feeling he felt differently.

After a decent dinner, we went to his place and vegged out. Again, he went in for the kiss and ended up pecking me incessantly. I knew then and there that I had to figure out how to end this because it was just NOT working. I stuck around for about an hour and headed home with a "headache." I proceeded to send all the right signals the following week- being distant, not answering calls, anything to indicate that I had lost interest.

He called a few days later and we chatted. He asked if I wanted to see a movie that weekend and I told him I'd think about it. After hanging up, I knew I just had to end this. He really was a nice guy but without that physical chemistry, there was no point in dragging things out.

I hate that I'm this girl, but I broke things off via text message. Ya, I know. Please judge me for that one. I should've been a big girl and told him face to face but I hate confrontation and I hate hurting people more than that. He took it well; it seems he was expecting it.

I wish you well Birdman. Hope you find someone to share a nest with that enjoys the pecking that I did not.

Thursday, May 7, 2009

Bird Man - The Saga Continues

Sorry about the delay in continuing this story. Life's been interestingly busy for the past week or so.

Anywho, so Birdman calls and makes plans for dinner that Friday night. He picks me up (he was early which I suppose is better than late) and we park his car and walk the rest of the way to the restaraunt. The place is a decently nice Italian joint, so I found something right away. We order a bottle of wine and a meat and cheese plate appetizer and settle in for some conversation. Conversation went well, the food was good. We head over to a bar where we're supposed to meet up with one of his friends who's visiting from out of town. We meet up and the night continues. His friend's think I'm a riot (which is kinda true- I usually play up the humor card when I'm nervous). The rest of the evening goes well- the bar we were at had a burlesque show so that was fun and exciting. At the end of the night, Birdman asks if he can have a kiss before putting me in a cab home. I give him a polite peck on the check and tell him to call me again.

Later that week, after speaking on the phone a few times, he invites me over for dinner on a Friday night. His sister, brother-in-law, and nieces will be in town for the weekend. I agree to swing by, although I was a little concerned that it would be awkward. After work, I head to his place to help get everything ready. Everyone arrives and his 6-year old niece takes to me right away. Dinner was ok, a little bland for my taste as far as food goes, but it wasn't too odd. Everyone but the two of us went to bed and we went out for a few drinks before going home. He gives me cab money again and invites me to spend the day with them at Navy Pier and the movies the next day. I agree since I had no other plans. It was a pretty nice day to be out at Navy Pier and Build-a-Bear Workshop wasn't nearly as crowded as I thought it would be. His niece decided that she was going to be my shadow for the day and had to be walking next to me at all times. I was fine with it because I love kids but still, I was surprised. We went to dinner at Hard Rock Cafe which was good but overpriced for sure. Finally, we saw Monsters vs. Aliens in 3D. I felt like a little kid again and that was super awesome. Company wasn't bad either. We head back to his place and the munchkins go to sleep. Shortly thereafter, his sister and brother-in-law dose off. Birdman decides to make his move. After some very awkard cuddling during a movie on TV, he goes in for the kiss...... and nothing- no spark, no heart-racing, nada. I give him a chance and try to show him how I like to kiss but it seemed like we were getting nowhere. I was bored to the point that I was figuring out what I was going to do the next day and how I needed to sort laundry. I head home shortly afterwards and just laugh to myself about it.

I'll continue the last of this story next time. Stay tuned to find out why this one is Birdman.

Side Note

Maybe isn't that terrible afterall.

*mini happy dance*